I have been really lacking in this part of my world. Now I will catch you all up on my activities and my thoughts about things that have happened around here in my world.
Most of you know that my daughter was getting married on October 17th 2009. So between working and being busy preparing, shopping for dresses, and tuxedos, food,and a minister. They had one lined up and when they found out the cost for the church and the minister that fell through. It was going to cost them about 400.00 for the use of the church and the minister. After a few frantic days of trying to find a minister I finally found one that I used to work with . She is the minister of her church. She just asked that the bride and groom make a donation to her church. The bride and groom paid her what they could afford which wasnt four hundred dollars. They had a meeting with her and they both agreed that she would perform the ceremony. And since her church is in Des Moines and we live in Winterset we moved the wedding to a county park here in Winterset. We send out invitations. Order the tuxes.After that the disc jockey was the next hurdle we had been given numbers by the disc jockey at another function when we tried those numbers they didnt work. Finally we do get a hold of him. The bride sets up an appointment. Well before this meeting the bride gets a phone call from an old guy friend (he calls to congratulate them on their upcoming nupitals). When her fiancee finds out he gets upset. They have now called off the wedding because the groom no longer trusts her. He is planning to become an over the road driver and he told her that he would always wonder who she was with. She has never given him any reason to doubt that she would honor her wedding vows. He wants her to give up all her friends girls and guys . She is not willing to do that. Mainly because she doesnt feel like she did anything to warrant his distrust. He wouldnt give up his friends girls and guys that he parties with for 3 days at a time. They have had other ups and downs before this and both learned to give and take. But since marriage is based on trust and there is no trust they have cancelled their wedding and ended their relationship. Now Melissa is back at home with me. I am not sure how I will handle having to give up my solitude. I enjoy my solitude, but she is my daughter and I love her. She is welcomed to be home as long as she needs to be. I am now in the process of sending out cancellation notices and cancelling all the people that were a part of the wedding process. I had to move the weddding dress out of her room because everytime she looked at it she cried. I got lucky a lot of the expenses had not been paid for yet because of the businesses didnt want us to. And they have all been generous in accepting the cancellation of the wedding. The next time she deceides that she wants to get married I am going to push for elopement this was too emotional and stressful.
My feelings about all this is "At least they found out about this problem before they got married and no children were involved." Someone will come along for Melissa and she will be happy again. She may have had some part in all this but she will learn from it. So there you have it. I have found great comfort from my Father in Heaven these last few days. He has given me the peace and the words I need to comfort my daughter and I am grateful for this.
My world might actually settle down again.
