Saturday, March 26, 2011

Time to catch up

After a couple of weeks of being extremely busy with work projects and also being sick, it is now time to catch up on the jar of questions. So in effort to do this I will be answering 2 questions today. I went through the jar and took out the questions that I had answered already and took out the questions that I have no recollection of and questions that I felt were to personal to put out here in blog land. Also questions that were repetitive.I have come up with these two for today.

1. What are your food preferences and how did they come about?

When I was younger I was not picky at all about what I ate, but since I am now older I do have some strong likes(chocolate)and dislikes(absolutely hate blueberries).Some of my favorite foods are enchiladas, fajitas,potatoes,breads,lasagna,steak,but I find that I like foods that fill me up. I am not much of a snack er, but I prefer salty over sweet. I am willing to try different foods, but don't tell me what is in it until I have tried it. Because I have found if there is one ingredient in it I don't care for I won't like it. But if I like it and then I find out what is in it, that doesn't bother me and I will more than likely eat it again and maybe even cook it at home. The second part of the question is how did they come about. I am not sure about that, my guess is that I have always had a sensitive stomach and if something makes it hurt than I shy away from that food. Sometimes I try something a friend loves and find that I don't care for it, I have found out that most of the time there is a item in it I had never tried before and found out I didn't like the combination. For instance I went to a friend's favorite place and tried a burrito, it has lime on the rice. I didn't care for it. The next time I went I had them leave the rice off, I enjoyed the burrito. Whenever I travel I stick to mostly plain or bland foods because I don't want to be sick or have a stomach. I have found out recently that I have a lactose intolerance problem. Something that I have probably had all my life. I can have some dairy products but not all. But another quirky thing that I have found out is that when I was younger, I was picky about how things looked,such as Chinese food, I wouldn't eat it when I was young, But now I love Chinese food. When I was younger I like spicy food but now it burns my lips so I don't eat it too spicy.

2. Describe your wedding day.
Talk about going in a totally different direction from food to a wedding day.
My wedding day was an interesting day, I arrived at the church early to get ready. Before getting ready I met my future husband sister Teresa, I hadn't met her before Duane and I dated for 4 years were engaged for an year, I had met his brother and his family but not his sister's, then someone came to me and asked about how to make the punch. I thought this was kind of funny at the time. Here I was suppose to be getting ready to get married and I was dealing with little things. I had done my own hair and since I didn't really wear a lot of make-up I did my own make-up my mother and maid of honor helped me get my dress on, then the photographer took pictures of me and the flower girl. We had done a rehearsal the day before so I was prepared. As the guys were getting their tuxes on, one of the groomsmen had gotten a shirt that was meant for a boy. I worked for this particular tuxedo shop. So I called and a new shirt was rushed over to the church. Even though this was a glitch the wedding started on time, I had a friend from New Mexico as one of my bridesmaids, 3 friends from Utah and one of them had been a roommate she was my maid of honor. My younger brother was one of the groomsmen,we had a friend's little girl be our flower girl, I still have contact with all of these friends and families. My cousin David from Illinois came with my Aunt Linda and Uncle Larry from New Mexico. My best friend Annette from high school had come even though I wasn't expecting her. Of course my mother came. I remember as I watched the bridesmaids and groomsmen walk down the aisle before me how nervous I was but yet how calm I was. My Uncle Larry walked me down the aisle, as we were walking down the aisle he kept reassuring me that I wasn't going to fall. I was worried because my dress was long. One thing that still stands out in my mind is when the minister asked if I took this man to be my husband, I hesitated.(We are divorced now maybe I should have hesitated longer). Our reception was held downstairs at the church so after picture taking we went downstairs to the reception. We only had cake nuts and mints with punch served. It was a low keyed wedding and reception. I was glad. Some of the other people involved in the wedding ceremony and reception were, Jean (she was an young women advisor in New Mexico) who at that time was a member of the Mormon Tabernacle Choir, she sang at the wedding. My laurel advisor when I was younger in New Mexico played the piano at our reception. My Aunt Linda made the mints for the reception. My friend from high school so graciously helped serve cake and punch to our guests, my first Sunday School teacher and her family drove from Idaho Falls to attend our wedding. I met lots of Duane relatives and friends that day. Do I remember any of them, not really, but I am glad that they helped us celebrate our wedding. I have some beautiful pictures from a beautiful day. The weather was sunny and warm. We had originally planned for a outdoor wedding, but in Utah it is common for the weather to still be snowy in the early May days. So we decided not to take the chance and got married in the Presbyterian church.

Monday, March 7, 2011

Birth Order......Does it mean anything?

Question: How do you like being the oldest, youngest, or middle child?
Before I answered this question, I went and did a little research on what experts says about birth order.

Birth order is defined as a person's rank by the sequence of birth among his or her siblings. Birth order is commonly believed to have a profound and lasting effect on psychological development. Although this assertion has been repeatedly challenged by researchers, birth order continues to have a strong presence in pop psychology and popular culture.

Before I tell you my birth order, I took a few quizzes that I could find, they asked simple questions, after responding to 3 different quizzes and being told that I am most likely a first born, I have to laugh because, I am not a first born. I am a xxxxxx child, and on top of that an only girl. But I guess if you look at the birth order of me as a cousin or grandchild then yes I am a first born granddaughter and neice. I am the oldest girl in the family. How do I feel about it, well as I told my friend the other day when this question came up. I enjoyed being the only girl because I got alot of attention because of it. I was a daddy's girl. In case you haven't figured it out yet.,,, I AM AN MIDDLE CHILD> I don't like being a middle child in the sense of I have two brothers and when I was younger if my older brother got good grades I was expected to do the same. My younger brother has some learning disablities so he didnt have to get good grades he just had to do the best he could. Even though I was the middle child, It was expected of me to still be the responsible one. I was the first one to get a job as a teenager. While my brothers were not encouraged to do so. If I wanted spending money I had to earn it. I hated that my brothers didn't get along so I always had to sit between them so they would leave each other alone. Never got to sit by a window in the car.... Now that I am a mother of an ONLY child, I kind of wished that I was one of them. She pretty much has had an easy life and all the attention from her grandmother, and uncles and my aunts and uncles. Of course that is just from my side of the family, on her father's side she is the youngest grandchild and cousin. So she still gets the attention. Now I wonder what affect it has on a marriage when a middle child (me) marries and youngest child (him). If any ?????????????? Something to think about.My ex-husband is an youngest child in a family with 3 children also.
Picture of my family
pictures of me and my brothers, in my designated spot between them.

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

The Most Wonderful Thing


Here is the question from Jar
What is the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to you?
Well I would have to say, the most wonderful thing is that I became a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints in May 1974. I had always been one of those children that got on a church bus every Sunday that came to my home and picked me up. Even though I attended church my family didnt once in awhile my brothers and cousin would go but I always went. I just wanted some peace in my young childhood years. I felt safe at church. When we moved to Albquerque NM I was a 13 yr old girl who wasn't happy. I went to church but even then that wasn't making me happy anymore. The church I was going to kept saying they were the only Bible believing church on earth. I knew that other churches believed in the bible. I remember being taught bible stories from all of them. The summer after we moved to New Mexico, I went back to Illinois to spend the summer with my Aunt Sharon and her family. I spent the summer there and attended church. I don't remember which one, all I remember is that a church bus came by and picked me and my cousins up. We went to church while my Aunt and Uncle slept in. Some things happened that summer that changed my life. When I rode the Greyhound bus back to New Mexico I met a girl my age who was reading a teen magazine we started talking. She was talking about the Osmond Brothers, I hadn't heard about them but knew alot about the Jackson Five family, she mentioned that the Osmonds were LDS (of course she used the word MORMON). I didnt think much about that until later. I was in high school. The word MORMON kept coming into my mind so, I went to the library and looked up the word. I wanted to know what a Mormon was. All I found out was the Joseph Smith story. I was confused. I spoke to a friend in my english class and he told me that he was taking the mormon discussions, I was curious so that evening I went over while the missionaries were teaching them. What is ironic about this is... I to this day do not know if him or his family ever joined. They moved to Chicago before they finished the discussions. I finshed taking the discussions at another friend's house. I was baptized. I have been a member since, not always active. I lived in Utah in 1980 for about 4 years the first time met lots of members and enjoyed living there. I met my ex-husband there he is not a member. We got married in May 1984. We divorced in 1987. My daughter was baptized when she was 8, she isnt active anymore.
I feel like if I hadn't joined the LDS church when I did I would not be here today. I have had lots of blessings because of my membership in this church. I finally felt like there is a reason to live. Because of the church there have been many other wonderful things in my life. My daughter being one of the most important thing. My knowledge of knowing that someday I will see my mother again. No matter how much crap happens in my life, I Know that my Heavenly Father lives and loves me.

1 year older and 1 year wiser


There is a new thing that I was enlighten about. On your birthday you are suppose to name some things that you want to accomplish before your next birthday. The catch is it is suppose to be in the amount of your age (for instance if you are 25 it should be 25) Well I am well over 25 and I am not sure I can come up with as many as I have to. But hey I will try. LOL Now to come up with 53 things I want to do. I might to even have to make some up.It is suppose to be fun right. I also don't want it to cost me alot of $$$$

1. Visit Utah again
2. Scrapbook at least once a week
3. Go for a walk everyday. (waiting on snow and cold to go away)
4. Read a book a month of my choice. (so that would be twelve books)
5. Pay in full one bill (yes this is something I want to do)
6. Answer one question a week from Family History Jar
7. Work on Family History
8. Attend Temple once a month (closest one in Omaha)
9. Send missionaries a referral to teach gospel to.
10. Go camping at least 3 times this summer.
11. Spend more time outdoors
12. Go to see 3 movies (only went to 2 last year. Had to go to Utah for that)
13. Get a pedicure
14. Buy a new dress
15. Go on a date. (he has to be member of church)
16. Plan a trip to Disneyland and save to go in 2012
17. Cook a meal once a week that is healthy, fruits, veggies
18. Try a new receipe.
19. Take a photography class through community classes
20. Learn about another culture
21. Get in touch with an old friend from younger years
22. Bear testimony in Church at least once
23. Do a random act of kindness every Month.
24. Lose 10 lbs and keep it off
25. Get to know 1 family better at church
26. Organize my bedroom
27. De-clutter apartment
28. Start working on Christmas presents for friends, and daughter
29. Plan a 25th Birthday Party for my daughter
30. Plan a tropical get away for my 55th birthday. (now I am stretching it)
31. Take more pictures of myself and like them.
32. Have people over for dinner
33. Plan a budget
34. Laugh more
35. Refinish Picnic Table
36. Learn to read music
37. Listen to uplifting music
38. Read the Ensign every month
39. Do VT every month
40. Only 13 more things to come up with (lol)
41. Wake up a half hour earlier everyday so I have time to read scriptures.
42. Smile more
43. Prepare Primary Lessons earlier
44. Write in Journal more
45. Read patrichal blessing often
46. Study Scriptures more (Guess What Stacee)
47. Eat Less Chocolate
48. Continue to drink less coke
49. Think more of others
50. Be happier
51. Visit every child in primary personally
52. Go grocery shopping more (I hate this so much I avoid it)
53. Never do this again. (LOL)

Okay seriously I didn't realize how hard it is to think of 53 things that I want to do. I know some turned out to be goals I had already started in Janruary but I need to work on them more. I read my blog often to see where I am on my goals, so now I can see what I want to accomplish in the next year. I think we as people don't feel we deserve to do the things we like. Most of us spend more time doing for other's than ourselves, It is okay if we are happy too. If I accomplish at least 25 of these I will be happier and smiling more and laughing. So maybe it was good that I had to think about what I wanted this year. Love all my family and friends, but most of all I love my Father in Heaven and the many blessings he has given me. I have had some challenges this past couple of weeks but thanks to a few friends and their continous love for me I know that I am loved and it will soon pass. Love you Stacee and Tara.